Friendship

MyManna — Wed, 19 Oct 2016 22:30:24 +0000

“Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.” 1 Samuel 18:1.

Making good friends in our constantly-moving society is getting harder.
It’s not that we don’t want close relationships-
– but people come and go so fast it’s difficult to establish long-lasting friendships.
But it’s more than that.
Some of us have been hurt and betrayed so often we keep others at arm’s length.
Perhaps you had a close friend once who proved to have looser lips than you thought.
Behind your back she spilled your secrets to others.
You felt betrayed and rightly so.
Now, you suffer from hurt, unforgiveness and distrust.
While it’s tempting to wish God would bring me a good friend, more often than not-
He asks me to be a good friend to someone else first.
That’s when I need to go to Scripture for a reminder of what true friendship looks like.
God knows the agony of broken relationships and our need for godly role models.
That’s why we’re allowed to look into the lives of two biblical characters who succeeded at a long, intimate friendship.
Their names are David and Jonathan.
We find their story in 1 Samuel 18 and 19.
Jonathan, son of King Saul, was David’s closest friend.
The king despised David because he was growing in popularity and because God had anointed David to be king-instead of Saul’s own son.
These facts enraged King Saul.
And he commanded his aids and Jonathan to assassinate David.
Love!
But because of Jonathan’s love for his friend-
– he refused to betray David.
Love isn’t the only fruit of true friendship.
It consists of sacrifice too.
Jonathan is a picture of sacrifice.
He removed his robe and gave it to David, along with his armour, sword, bow and belt.
Jonathan was the potential heir to his father’s throne- – but we see him sacrificing his future as he gives David his place as king.
We learn from Jonathan’s action that true friendship means a willingness to sacrifice for each other. It’s the choice to put another’s needs, desires and wishes above our own.
Loyalty!
Loyalty is also a mark of true friendship.
We’re told that Jonathan went to his father and spoke well of David.
He reminded the king that David had done nothing wrong.
In fact, David had been loyal to Saul.
It’s tough to do the right thing and stand up to authority.
We learn by his actions that a true friend is a loyal defense before others, and one who won’t talk badly about you when you’re not around.
True friends stick up for each other and are ready to defend when others attack.

Lasting!
Finally, true friends trust each enough to be themselves.
When Jonathan told David that his father was out to kill him, the two were forced to say goodbye.
The text in 1 Samuel 20:41 tells us that they “wept together.”
When your heart is broken, you can fall apart and a good friend understands.
True friends weep together.
They listen to fears.
They don’t bail.
They stay.
They allow you to be yourself-
– no matter what “self” looks like.
God challenges me to be a better friend with the story of Jonathan and David.
I check my heart to see if my friendship is loving, loyal, and lasting-
– then I ask God to help me be that kind of friend and bless me with the same.
A good friendship takes time.
If things get rocky-
– don’t walk out.
– but work it out.
Give your relationship time to grow because a true friend is a rare, precious and a lasting gift.

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